Wednesday, January 3, 2018

Strong women, who can know?

Alistair Roberts wrote at Mere Orthodoxy about the need to dispense with the strong female character. It's a well-written, if long, article. He made some excellent points. Then he followed up with another article at his own site, Alistair's Adversaria, reacting to some push-back, here.

I want to include a few excerpts from his good original article and then continue with my own thoughts. We may need to dispense with the 'strong female character' as Roberts suggests, or as I propose, we may need to redefine what a strong female character is in the first place.
Popular culture is the focus of some of the most determined attempts to shift attitudes on a host of issues within society at large, and such forms of representation are an important dimension of this. While popular media and the various ‘messages’ within it may often appear innocuous, they are frequently anything but. Behind them lie concerted efforts to change the public’s thinking and perception on key matters and some carefully calculated agendas. The supposed shallowness of pop culture is deceptive: It is a realm where brilliant and talented people go to try to shape minds at their most unguarded and impressionable. It is on the ground of entertainment media that the so-called culture wars have largely been lost.
Yes! Yes! Yes! Entertainment is never innocuous. What we absorb in entertainment has an agenda, a worldview, and a purpose. It's not merely to entertain you and me, it is to change our perceptions, and this happens more easily when we are at our most unguarded.

RE more recent portrayals of Disney Princesses:
Yet, despite their likeableness and roundedness as characters, these new princesses betray some concerning anxieties about women’s place and agency within the world. Within the kickass princess trope lurks the implication that, to prove equality of dignity, worth, agency, and significance as a character, all of a woman’s resolve, wisdom, courage, love, kindness, self-sacrifice, and other traits simply aren’t enough—she must be capable of putting men in their place by outmatching them in endeavors and strengths that naturally favor them, or otherwise making them look weak or foolish.
That is very well said!

His article becomes tremendous toward the end. The section titled The Heroism of Lady Wisdom recounts the strong female through God's eyes. The woman at home, raising children, is where the real strength is-
Our failure to see the heroism and the strength of such a diligent and active woman is a failure to see the world as God does. The strength of such a woman is not that of conformity to more typically male forms of strength, but rather of the reflection of the work of the master creator, Lady Wisdom, within her own world of activity.
Women can be trained in martial arts and sword play. It takes strength of the physical type to perform those feats. Of course, women lack the same upper body strength as men and cannot replicate male feats of warlike strength exactly, but thanks to animation and CGI, we can overlook that fact.

If you do a Google image search for 'strong women' you get photos like these:

But truly, who is stronger, Mulan, or Lydia? Lydia hosted a home church. (Acts 16:40). She was a working woman, but she also prepared endlessly for guests, cleaning and readying the domicile so that the main concentration could be on studying the Word and fellowshipping with one another. Dorcas/Tabitha sewed endlessly for charity. (Acts 9:36). She made garments and sat among other women, edifying and speaking and loving. It's harder to unfailingly love through the years than it is to swing a sword once or twice.

Jael swung a hammer and drove one tent peg for a few minutes. (Judges 4:17-22). Yet Leah was used by Laban her father and unpreferred by her husband, but submitted to them both, uncomplainingly raised 6 boys, and was faithful to God all her days. Which takes more strength, a few moments of physical exertion, of a lifetime of putting God first? Who is the woman of valor?

Hannah was barren, a devastating indictment in the culture's eyes. She was tormented by her husband's other wife. She asked for a son and vowed to give him back to God- and then did. Which takes more strength, the woman of Abel-Bethmaach who negotiated a peace treaty, (2 Samuel 20:16-21a), or Hannah? Could you give up your son and only see him once a year? Withstand insults and torment from a competing wife and turn only to the Lord for comfort and petitions? I know my answer. I'd complain and gossip and plot against the jealous other wife. Hannah showed strength of character not just in one Bible event like the wise woman of Bethmaach, but maintained Godly character for years. What woman is "stronger"?

Mary is to me one of the strongest women of the entire Bible. As a virginal teenager (probable age) betrothed but not yet married, she was told that she would conceive and bear a child by the Spirit. Adultery was a crime for which people were stoned. Mary faced it and said to angel Gabriel, 'let it be done to me as God wills.' She gave birth in the cold and among animals. She lived with the whispers of adultery and attendant humiliation and doubts about her character all her life. She was told at His birth she would see Him die horrifically. And she did see her Son die horrifically. She was obedient, she bore it- and praised God through it. Isn't that strength? Could you do as Mary did?

Our culture sees external fighting as strength. Feminists create women who appear in movies and shows, proficient in martial arts, wars, battles involving swords, knives, or guns as 'strong' women.  It's the trope that's constantly pushed in front of us. Rapunzel, Merida, Elsa, Wonder Woman, Rey, are all presented to us in entertainment as the external female strong ideal because they wield weapons. They're called strong because of their derring-do. They're lauded because they make men look foolish. But the REAL battle is not with swords, but is the internal fight against sin. Truly strong women wield the sword of the Word. (Ephesians 6:17). Truly strong women help their husbands, support and care for them, (Genesis 2:18; 20b) not make them look weak or foolish.

There are so many named and unnamed Godly women in the Bible who fought their own sin-nature and demonstrated quiet strength for years. Real strength is obedience to God, submission to our roles, and resisting sin always. Be strong, women, be strong.

Further Reading

Essay: Bad Examples of Women Pastors (But Great Examples of Godly Women)

Sermon: The Proverbs 31 Woman


  1. I'm totally exasperated by women today trying to usurp the God-given roles of males, discontent with their God-given roles, both in the religious and secular worlds. They desire glowing titles given them to prove their strength, power and intelligence, and base their personal value on those titles. "Helper," wife, mother, homemaker and such are demeaning and insufficient. Many Christians have the same mindset as society, unaware of the agenda that's influencing them.

    In my opinion, these many recent accusations by women of sexual harassment is part of an agenda to empower women. Where is their virtue? Of course, there's much that could be said about that issue.

    All these women in pulpits today is disparaging. God has not called them there, as they suppose. They do not possess a quiet strength and are not content in growing in the knowledge of Christ, but are loud-mouthed and boisterous, and demonstrate that they lack biblical wisdom and discernment. Being prominently seen and known in a position of power is what they seek.

    I am well aware that my strength comes from God and I depend on Him daily for it.

    I can't wait for Jesus to return, for this current world is insane and everything is upside down. Men and women seeking power and notoriety have made a masterful mess of it. (And praise God that He had mercy and didn't permit that woman Hillary to exercise her control over us!!!)

  2. Sorry, will have to disagree with you here in one respect. I feel there is a bit of reading-into-the text regarding Leah. Leah was engaged in an active marital/offspring battle with her sister, competing for Jacob's love (evidenced by the names of many of her sons; it took her until her 4th son to praise the Lord). However, even after this, Leah was not content. She then gave her maidservant to Jacob to produce more children in response to Rachel's jealous behavior in the conflict. Leah also bought from Rachel a night of intimacy with Jacob in exchange for some mandrakes. This is hardly uncomplaining, godly behavior, dear Elizabeth. Sorry!

    The whole situation of Laban, Jacob, and his two wives/two concubines is rife with sinful conduct from ALL parties. What this narrative is, is a demonstration of God's unfathomable mercy, and His unwavering promise to bring Messiah into the world in spite of the sinful conduct of many of the people involved in Christ's lineage.

    That said, I do agree, a strong woman is a woman of Character. Strong women in Scripture also include Abigail, Tamar (2 Sam 13), and the "sinner" woman who washed Christ's feet with her tears.

    Finally, helper - Biblically, ezer - Heb 5828, used in Genesis 2 with respect to woman toward man, and also of God Himself many times toward His people.


  3. Ah-ha, the verse that escaped me earlier, I have found!

    Ecc 7:28, whereas there may be but one honorable man among a thousand, there are even fewer honorable women. A woman of noble character, a rare jewel indeed!



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